Entering into relationships at a premature age can be detrimental to the sustainability of your soul. From my own personal experience once you engage in these trivial pursuits, you detach more from yourself in an effort to consolidate the meagre feelings emanating from misperception. The inner self is glowering in resentment as it is piled under a reign of quasi-systemisation. Relationships can hinder development, you’re registered to limbo never reaching the hierarchy of yourself. At a young age I don’t think you can decipher between a healthy and non-healthy relationship. “1 in 3 young people will be in an abusive or unhealthy relationship.” (11 facts about teen dating violence, no date). Embarrassment chides youth if they admit to the tiresome charades that choke the stealth of any relationship. “Only 1/3 of the teens who were involved in an abusive relationship confided in someone” (11 facts about teen dating violence, no date).
Isolation ensues once you fully grasp these relationships. “Younger females reported having the highest rates of isolation” (Karakurt and Silver, 2012), within intimate relationships. The need for friends and diversity is discarded, noted as being subtle distractions from the immense token of a lover. It’s this isolation that is synonymous to the youths’ beguiled naivety. This voluntary self-ostracization merges the coalition of one and one’s partner desperately resigning to society’s paradigm of the “perfect” couple. Individualism is slighted in favour of ignorant blandishments like “ye’re so close, I wish I had a relationship like yours”. Outward projection is revered whilst feelings of doubt are incinerated, hidden from view. Rabid dependency on the partner spikes, as the young feel unfit to cope without their social security blanket. “Isolation aims to undermine the victim’s life and identity outside the relationship and foster a sense of dependency.” (Karakurt and Silver, 2012). It’s these relationships that beset the youth with self-reproof and anxiety.
The youth is indeed stripped of their identity as their name must be tied with their partners. Their inner abilities are substituted with novice notions and doubts. Their mind is hung on a harangue of excuses as they’ll never exceed their own limitations if their stuck in an impermeable peevish relationship. The mentality of the young is almost forced not to grow coerced by the nagging of a partner. Development, I believe, is halted acquiescing to the demands of the partner and the plantations of boredom that erect. These relationships stifle youth’s development as they tentatively reject their own desires. My own deep-rooted consternation with this, is the oblivious nature that tracks the tenure of these relationships.
These relationships experienced by the youth can be extremely intense. This intensity can shoot a high voltage of pain and an endless array of emotions. It’s these feelings that are hard to digest and we begin to lose control of who we actually are. The prohibition of sense and the enclosed tunnel-vision of a primitive life leads to many casualties. Severe break-ups, obviously coupled with outside factors, charts the leader board in suicides carried out by young people. “Suicide is the 2nd leading cause of death for 15 to 24 year old” (SAVE, 2003). The assimilation of these intense relationships actually ending can be too much for young people to gulp. “Suicide is the leading cause of death in men aged 15-34 years in Ireland” (Suicide is the leading cause of death among young men in Ireland, 2015)
11 facts about teen dating violence (no date) Available at: https://www.dosomething.org/us/facts/11-facts-about-teen-dating-violence (Accessed: 11 June 2016).
Karakurt, G. and Silver, K.E. (2012) ‘Emotional abuse in intimate relationships: The role of gender and age’, 28(5).
SAVE, 2016 (2003) Suicide facts. Available at: http://www.save.org/index.cfm?fuseaction=home.viewPage&page_id=705D5DF4-055B-F1EC-3F66462866FCB4E6 (Accessed: 11 June 2016).
Suicide is the leading cause of death among young men in Ireland (2015) Available at: https://www.stpatricks.ie/blog/suicide-leading-cause-death-among-young-men-ireland (Accessed: 11 June 2016).